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Pause Life for a Moment- A Nut in a Nutshell

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Have you ever had a friend that knew everyone and yet made you feel like the time that spend visiting with you was important. Blueviolet of a A Nut in a Nutshell is just that kind of friend. She knows everyone. If you go to a conference with her, you will see her talk to everyone. She knows veteran bloggers and newbies. She not only knows them she has visited their blogs, left comments on a ton of their posts, and probably e-mailed a response to a comment you may have left on her blog.  I am pretty sure that if Blueviolet hasn’t found you yet she will and you will be blessed.
Pausing Life

It was Father’s Day nearly three years ago.

My husband had very little time off from his job so we headed out of town for the day on a fun-filled adventure with our son.

On the way, I called my dad to wish him a happy Father’s Day and tell him that I loved him.

Then I carried on with my day’s activities.

The whole week slipped by in a flurry of do this and do that chaos.

And then I got a phone call that stopped time.

“Elizabeth, it’s your dad. He fell and he’s unconscious. The ambulance is on the way, but it doesn’t look good. Please hurry.”

I raced to my mom’s house but the ambulance was just leaving for the hospital. I headed straight there myself.

My dad never regained consciousness.

I remember walking into the emergency room where I saw my brother, and I just collapsed into his arms and sobbed uncontrollably.

I lost my daddy.

I will never forgive myself for losing that one last chance on Father’s Day to hug my dad and tell him how much I loved him.

If you have been touched by this post, please stop by a Nut in Nutshell and let Blueviolet know.

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Comments

  1. My dad is coming to visit this weekend, I’ll make sure to tell him….

    Blueviolet is a sweetie!! She always answers any questions and I always have a question!

  2. 🙁
    I guess no matter how much we’ve done for our loved ones, we’ll always find some regrets. How precious for you that you called, though, and told him you loved him. Many don’t even have that comfort. Blessings x

  10. No matter what we do, or how many times we say it or show it, when we lose the people we love, we always feel we could have done or shown more. Blueviolet’s comments are off, so please if you can, share this with her. She shouldn’t feel guilty or bad about what happened. He knew she loved him. Time to let that guilt go. She’s right, we never know what’s going to happen, but like I said, no matter what, we will always feel we could have done more. Short of spending every second with our loved ones (impossible), or caring for them as they become ill and pass on, all we can do is make sure we say it every day and show it when we can.

  11. Oh. I am so sorry.
    I will remember to hug my dad every chance I get.
    Thanks for that.

  12. How sad, I’m so sorry for your loss.

    And Blue Violet is awesome and always super friendly.

  13. Oh hun, I’m sorry to hear that. I do the same thing with my not going to see my grandfather like I was suppose to. I just remember what wonderful times we had and how much I love him.

    HUGS

  14. I know the loss of a father well!
    No matter what he always knows how very much you love him!

    But a beautiful reminder to tell your loved ones how very special they are!

  15. I followed BV here. I think you have to live life so that if it’s your last moment, you know your moments will last. It’s not the last hug, or the last “I love you” people remember. It’s the park bench on a warm sunny afternoon, or helping them learn to ride a bike. It’s giggling late into the night or the hours you spent searching for a gold fish that looks exactly like the one you just flushed… That’s what people remember.

  16. No need to worry about missing the last chance. He KNEW it. He knew it from all the hugs and kisses from you all your life. He knew it even when you were mad at him. He knew it just as you know you love your childre and know they love you without saying so. He knew!

  17. I struggled for a long time with couldas, shouldas and wouldas after losing my first husband in an accident but I finally stopped beating myself up over it because I know he knew how much I loved him because I’d said it and shown it thousands of times in thousands of ways.
    Yeah, your dad knew how much you loved him.

  18. BlueViolet is such a sweetie. I am sure that her daddy felt so blessed to have her as his daughter. Grief changes us and many times we think we shoulda/coulda have done more. In reality that’s not the case. We just miss the ones we love so much. I know. I’v lost both my sister & daddy and not a day goes by.

  19. Oh, that is sad. I’m sorry for her. That is hard when it is so sudden like that. I love her blog. I didn’t know this about her. Thanks for sharing this.

    My Dad died almost 20 yrs ago, from a terminal illness so I know the feeling.

  20. As a senior citizen myself I know your dad loved getting a call from you on that special day. He would have wanted for you to spend it with your family and his grandson.

  22. Oh Blueviolet…what a sad story…I’m calling my dad right now. Thanks for the reminder of how fleeting life can be. I’m so sorry!

    Lots of yummy love,
    Alex aka Ma What’s For Dinner
    http://www.mawhats4dinner.com

  24. Wow, so so sad. I am sorry for your loss. Blueviolet has a heart of gold. I am so happy you blessed my blog with your presence.

  25. Last March my dad fell in New Brunswick, and we were here in Ontario. It was a horrible feeling not being close by and him having a surgery.

    I am going to be pretty honest…I didn’t like my dad much growing up, but, now I am scared of him aging and some day not being here anymore. We call the house and he is long-winded and takes up your time. It drives my sister crazy and she always either avoids him on the phone or tries to get off quickly. I have reminded her that some day he won’t be there. And, a few minutes today may mean a lot tomorrow.

    Very sweet heart-tugging post today.

  26. People never really go away,
    They’re in our hearts and souls to stay.
    They watch from high to guide us through
    Each and every thing we do.

    Neither unknown realm nor distant mile
    Can hide your Daddy’s loving smile
    With an Angels wings at his side
    He fills the universe with pride

    Proud of the child he does cherish
    A loving bond that will never perish
    Time will see you face to face
    When you reunite in a sacred place

    I’m sure your father is on high
    In a blessed kingdom in the sky
    On wings of love he hath soared
    To the Holy house of our Lord.

    Your Dad sounds like he was a very special guy. I’m sure that you will hug him again!

  27. Oh Blueviolet! Through my tears my heart is broken for you, for me. I lost my daddy three years ago as well and my world will never be the same. Love you my friend!

  28. I am so incredibly touched by all of these comments from you, my sweet friends. Thank you sooooo much!

  30. I never knew this story about her life. How tragic.
    But isn’t she just the most amazing person? I don’t know how she manages to comment on so many blogs – and leave heartfelt comments at that! She is an inspiration.

  32. OMG I got chills. I am so sorry you went through this. It makes you realize how short life really is 🙁

  33. We never really know, do we? I’m glad that you took the time to call him and let him know that you loved him.

  35. Blueviolet is the best! She is always there for us, no matter what! I have to tell you that you are there for many of us too…I love seeing my inbox with comments from both of you. It really shows the connection that bloggers can have. xoxo!

    Blueviolet…this is a very personal post, I am so sorry to have read how this all happened. I love ya girl!

  36. Oh, that nakes me want to call my dad right now. How very sad. Im sorry Blueviolet.

  39. And yet I for one am in awe hearing that you had a relationship with your dad like you did. You had a daddy who loved you and was able to let you know that in word and action. Your dad was there for you, present and active in your life. That right there would be a miracle for me. It is sad that you did not get to see your dad during the week before he passed away or on Fathers Day. But you had a lifetime of every day Father in your life and you don’t know how much I wish I had that.

  40. I can’t stop the tears. My Dad and I have a special relationship and the thought of losing him is more than I can bear. I am so sorry that you lost your Daddy too early. I’m sure that he felt blessed for the phone call and the I love you.

  42. Love Blueviolet.

    Such a wonderful post to remind us not to take our loved ones for granted. You never know what tomorrow is going to bring.

  43. I’ve got goosebumps from reading that. Love Blueviolet. She’s a wonderful writer and such a talented blogger. What makes her special though is what you pointed out in your intro. One of a kind, she is 😉

    What a touching story. I am sure your Daddy knew how very much you loved him, Blue. So sorry for your loss. Hold him in your heart. You will meet again one day.

  44. I can not imagine, I want to cry just reading this. I am BIG on saying I love you every chance you get, because you never know what tomorrow or an hour holds… big hugs!! I think you are an amazing, loving person!

  45. i heart BV
    I know he knew your love… and was so thankful for the phone call and knowing that you were spending time with family…
    hugs!
    thanks for sharing a nut in a nutshell over here

  50. One of my favorite bloggers.
    That was a gut punch. So heartbreaking – I’m so sorry for that loss in your life. We go through life believing that tomorrow will be there, but never really knowing when it won’t. I’m sorry you went through this – it’s one of my biggest fears – to lose somebody I love suddenly. Hugs to you.

  51. That is so sad. ((HUGS)) You had no idea that would happen so don’t beat yourself up over it. I can’t be with my dad for important holidays. Your dad knows that you loved him.

  53. Oh my goodess that breaks my heart. It is definitely a reminder that you never know what is to come & that you should take every opportunity you can to tell someone how you feel. I probably don’t do it enough & I know I don’t visit enough with a few. I will try harder because it matters. Thank you for such a touching post.

  54. Yes I’m in love with her. She is just one of a kind. She does make you feel real and special.

    Very touching post.

  55. Knowing the kind of person BV is, I’m sure that she told him many times and gave him many, many hugs for no reason what-s0-ever. I am sure that he knew she loved her and went to his final resting place with that knowledge and hearing the words from her phone call.
    Hugs to you BV and to you JD’s mom.

  57. I’m glad blue at least got to speak with him. How sad though.

    She is a wonderful friend 🙂

  58. BV blesses me nearly every day with a comment on my blog. ~ Thank you!

    I lost my dad five years ago, but it was not sudden like this. He had been fighting cancer for four years and it was the last year that was hardest for my family. I was here in Chicago and they were there in Nova Scotia taking care of him. 🙁 I got to talk to him on the phone a couple of days before his death. He was totally cognitive ’til the end they say, even though the cancer had been in his brain for over 9-10 months.

    So sorry to hear of your loss. He knew you loved him. Dads just know. Just like moms.

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