She does all this while working, raising twin boys, and being a wonderful wife. Kir is quite a lady.
When my friend asked me to write for PAUSE LIFE for a MOMENT, my first thought was a favorite song of mine by country singer, Kenny Chesney.
“Don’t Blink” is a story of a man on his 102nd birthday who after being asked for advice about “what life is about?” answers with these two words.
“Don’t Blink”.
I find it inspiring and moving and encourage you to seek out the lyrics or the song online and spend a few minutes listening to its words.
Thank you so much for asking me to be here today, it is truly an HONOR to be in your space my friend.
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As a self-professed lover of TV I am quite familiar with the Pause Button. I often like to imagine that DVRs were an invention with me in mind.
The truth is I very rarely watch anything in “REAL TIME” anymore. I mean, really who has the time for it? I can sleep, or fold clothes or make dinner or watch CARS 2 for the 117th time with my twin sons and never really miss a thing. Later I find I can fold clothes or make dinner or work on a blog post and still keep up with my favorite shows, the remote never far away from my hands.
For it never fails that LIFE intervenes.
“I need more milk mommy!”
“Please come and watch me go, potty mommy!”
“Can you tell me the story about Finn McMissle one more time mommy?? “
Each time the stories I get lost in are PAUSED for a moment, while I handle the duties of being a mother. I revel in that role so much so that even if my sighs are loud and my footsteps heavy on the stairs as I go to fetch something for one of them, my heart is light and happy that I get to do it.
You see my life was paused for four years as I waited to see if I would ever become a mom. Many times you’re life moves at a lightning-fast pace and you cannot keep up, that wasn’t the case for me as I battled infertility. My days, months, and years had become one long, drawn-out moment in the dark where I truly could never see a light at the end of that tunnel. In truth I would have done anything to be able to hit the PLAY button and continue the show.
It’s funny to look back and see how slow and sad that time of my life was, especially now when I’m working full time, writing a blog, attempting a book, raising my beautiful sons, and trying my best to be a good wife.
I need that Pause button now more than ever.
I look around me these days and see life racing by, my sons growing in every moment of every day and my mind packed with little moments, little instances, little significant stages that I want to write down so I don’t forget.
Once again the ability to stop and take a breath, to stand still for a moment and take everything in for better or worse is welcome. I used to find the sound of my own heartbeat so lonely but with the addition of two more that beat in time with it, it is an echo I love to hear.
Life is never really that accommodating anymore.
It passes and takes your little moments with it. Like a stream that looks calm on the surface, it is forever flowing underneath carrying those precious seconds with it. I find that in those times, I am grateful for the sparkles on the water, those small shimmers of memories that will fill up my heart for the time when I have the rare but sweet opportunity to reach the remote and press PAUSE.
A lovely post. I’m so glad your 4 year wait had a happy ending! I, too, have twins. 🙂
Thank you for having me here today…it’s such an honor to be sharing. Your space today.
Plus, all the wonderful things you said are making me teary. I’m so lucky to know you.
I’d love to have a Pause button in my life. Sometimes life goes by so quickly!
Me too Ellen…so if you find one please share! Thank you so much for reading and commenting.
Lovely post. I wish I had a pause button on my life. I was just thinking about this today actually. Great post!
Hi Melissa…what a nice thing to say and share. I always hope we find our own pause buttons…to relax, to enjoy to regroup. Your words meant a lot to me thank you!
Very nice! tweeted it
Hi Karla..thank you for this comment and for tweeting it!!!!
What a beautiful post! As I watch my boys grow up, I wish I had that Pause button around.
What a lovely thing to say to me…thank you so much. It’s so nice to meet you and if you find that Pause button please share it with me. 🙂
Kir,
This is a wonderful post and so true. Once again you’ve pulled at my heartstrings. I need to find those moments to push on that pause button more often because life is just flying by!
Hi Melanie..and thank you for saying that. As moms I want us all to feel the same stuff…to support and comfort each other as we try to hit pause once in a while. Your comment made me smile..thank u!!!
Great post! I actually had an abbreviated version of this as a post today. I love the song Don’t Blink. It makes me tear up every time.
Hi Heather…me too! It brings me to tears with every refrain…but I love the reminders it gives me. Thank you for reading and commenting.
The value of PAUSE is priceless! Thanks for the beautiful post!
Hi there!! So nice to meet you and thank you for your really nice comment. That means a lot to me.
I love Kir!
That song makes me want to grab my kids and never let them go. Great post and great reminder.
Oh Kim..I adore you! You are such an inspiration to me. So glad you like that song too..it brings me to tears every single time…I am such a sap. Thank you for this comment hug…it means so much to me.
It’s a good thing tv has a pause button so we can enjoy our shows and our kids.
Exactly!!!! One more reason to give my devotion to that beautiful piece of Panasonic equipment LOL. Thank you for coming over!!!!
Kir, I’m in tears.
I’m struggling so hard right now to just stop and breathe.
Last year I can’t remember much of anything. I wanted to run from it as fast as I could with lightening speed….so this year, I’m trying so hard to stop and soak in those special moments I missed out on…but it’s hard. Being an adult you have all these responsibilites…but none of them are more important than the little ones (I’ll throw the husband in with the little ones because sometimes he acts like one…shhhh…don’t tell him that).
xoxo
Oh Kmber how I know that..you are so strong inside , so much stronger than you knw and I see it. You know to Pause and look at the little stuff ..i is one of the most amazing things about you.
Thank you for coming over here to read this and leave me so much love….it makes my heart happy to have you in my life.
Beautiful post, Kir. You always touch my heart. I need a pause button too.
Oh Steph thank you so much for coming over and leaving me that love. HUGS…we all need a Pause button. Xo
What a beautiful post, Kir!
Hi my new friend…thank you for coming over…it made my day! So glad you liked this!
Lovely as always! I know I say this every single time I comment, but I seriously can NOT get over how beautiful your writing is, it moves me.
Thank you for sharing Kir with us today. If I might add, anyone that is checking out The Kir Corner for the first time… you MUST read “The Stories of Kimmy & David” I promise you won’t be disappointed!
Ooohhhh Jess…wow!!! I am going to print this comment and put it up at my desk to remind me that there is love for me out there.
For YOU to say that I move you, wow…the tears. I am like a blubbering mess, but for this comment I’ll ruin my makeup. You TOUCHED me with this comment and thank you just doesn’t seem to be enough to say for what you’ve given me today. THANK YOU my friend. Xoxoo
Ah, Kir. That was beautiful. As are you. And you and I truly are kindred spirits – my life changed dramatically at the invention of the DVR. #loveit
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Missy if I am Anything like you..I’m proud of it. I’m so glad to see you here, thank you for coming over and leaving me some love. Xo
What a lovely post, Kir. Your infertility struggle is always so amazing to me. Thanks for sharing this with us!
Natalie…I think it’s only fair since I am amazed at EVERYTHING about you. I am inspired by you and the amazing way you live and parent. Thank you for coming over to read and leaving me this comment. I feel so lucky to have you in my world.
Beautifully written. I think I have a tendency to rush through life, but lately, I’ve been wanting to just stop and enjoy my time with my kids. Except when they won’t go to bed, enjoying over. 🙂
I think we all rush through..that’s the point..that if we could find the PAUSE button we’d not only use it to spend more time with our kids…but maybe we’d spend more time with “ourselves”. I like to think we would.
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Thank you for this comment, it’s makes me feel like there other moms like me out there.
Such wise words, Kir. A wonderful reminder that the moments don’t wait for us to catch up, we have to catch them before they fly by us too quickly.
Hi Alison. Thank you for coming over ….thank you. I am always just glad to see your name and your words. Plus I know that as a mom, you are someone I look up to..to show mw hw to Pause sometimes xo
This is a beautiful post. A wonderful way to remember how life used to be pre-motherhood, and how much changes the day our name changes to mom. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us all and for writing so beautifully – enough so to stir up emotions of all kinds for me today!
I’d like to add the rewind button so that I can grab the moment again, capture it on film for permanent placement in my life. I miss too much stuff!
I love how you say one heart beat was lonely but when you added to more – you weren’t. I think that once we ever have another heart beat within us and it grows beside us – we can never be truly lonely again:) Simply Beautiful!