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Learning to Love the Gift Because You Love The Giver

You don’t always know until you open the box as to whether you are going to love the gift it contains or plan to pass it on to one of your friends at the next white elephant swap. Once you open that beautifully decorated box with the red velvet ribbon and the gift it contains is revealed the suspense is over.

What is left is how you respond to the gift?

There are several avenues you take when the gift you have been given is far and away not something you will love and cherish forever.

If you are at the gift giver’s home, you can smile and secretly plot where you are going to hide the gift in their home. There is a chance they will forget they gave you the gift and when they find it they will slap themselves in the head and say, “Oh! That is where that gift was.” (I have a sister that tried this several times. It never worked. Mom always found the gift later on and remembered she had given it to her.)

You could be rude about it and ask if there is anyone else present that would like to trade with you or have this gift as a future birthday present. (This is best done behind a closed door after the gift exchange unless you want to crush the joy the giver has in giving the gift.)

You can honestly thank the giver for the wonderful electric toothbrush or sweater with glittering poinsettias and remember that if you drop it off at Goodwill by the end of the year it is a tax deduction.

There is the option of thanking the giver and only displaying the crystallized Lucite soap dish and hand towel with golden embroidered fleur de lis in your bathroom when your boyfriend comes to visit.

Each of these options has its flaws and there is a chance they could figure out what their gift wasn’t well received. If you give it away, the giver might ask to see it at a later time. If you keep it and only put in out with they are at your house, you could forget where it is. Then what do you say? It was hidden by JDaniel and he doesn’t remember where he hid it. That will only work once if you are lucky.

There is really only one sure way to receive a gift and have the giver know it is well received even if you dislike it a lot. You have to remember the heart of the giver. They may truly love what they are giving you. It is very possible they fell in love with this gift and if they loved they knew you would too. Remembering that they selected this gift out of love can really help you truly be thankful for a ceramic knife from your dad or the sleep positioning headrest from your mother.

Many teachers and mothers around the world have learned this lesson after years of practice. I hope you don’t have to do this much this year, but if you do please remember the heart of the giver. Your heartfelt thanks will be well received.

 

 

Thanksgiving Memories from My Childhood

Growing up I was always thankful for Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving meant gathering at my grandparents with my mom’s sisters and their families. There was always a long car ride, time playing with cousins, crafts, and a feast of wonderful food.

Over the River and Through the Woods

My Grandmere and Grandpere lived about six hours north of my family in New Jersey. It was always a long trip. My mom did all the driving and most of it was after nightfall. I am not sure if she started having us sing along with her near the end of the trip to keep her awake or to keep my two younger sisters from fussing in the backseat. We sang everything from Broadway show tunes to church songs. Once we got ready to cross from Pennsylvania into New Jersey via a bridge over the Delaware River, the song we always sang was Over the River and Through the Woods.

Have the Kids Decorate the Table So They Will Stay Out of the Kitchen

My mom and both of her sisters were teachers. Each year they would come up with something for my cousins Anne and Jeanne, my sisters, and I to create for the Thanksgiving table. I remember one year we made name tags with turkeys on them. Placemats were another year’s craft. None of us were very crafty so I am not sure the table looked beautifully adorned with our construction paper creations. They did however keep us out the kitchen so that the Thanksgiving feast could be prepared without five little girls “helping”.

Every year we were also tasked with creating slips of paper with Thanksgiving related words on them that each family member was supposed to act out in a round of charades after dinner. We had the best time deciding who would get the slip of paper that said turkey under their plate each year. The funny part about the slip creating activity is that I think we took longer create the slips and hide them under plates than we actually played charades each year. Usually, my aunts and uncles would act out what was on their slips. By the time it was my four male cousins’ turn they would protest this game was beneath them and ask if they had permission to go outside and play.

The Feast

The feast the ladies in my family prepared was wonderful. There was the turkey with gravy, assorted casseroles, candied sweet potatoes, mashed potatoes, stuffing, and Pillsbury crescent rolls. There were mounds of each of these foods piled high on platters and in bowls. The smell coming from the kitchen during the morning would get make your stomach start to growl, but it was nothing compared to the visual display of food placed down the center of the table. Everything always looked wonderful. I am not sure why the mashed potatoes and everything else they made always tasted better after it had been prepared in my Grandmere’s kitchen.

I don’t remember if we had dessert right after dinner or after running outside for awhile. I do remember that the feast was capped off with Grandmere’s apple pie and pumpkins pies. There also assorted cakes put out to enjoy too. It was Grandmere’s apple pie that always a hit. The crust just seemed to melt in your mouth.

Run and Play

My grandparents lived on a small farm with huge lawn to play on and a pond to canoe on. After our feast, there always something going on outside. There was a collection of bats, balls, and other outdoor toys kept the barn to keep us entertained for hours.

That is how I remember Thanksgiving growing up. What memories stand out to you?