Recently we have been talking about letting God heal old scars in our lives in the mom’s group I’m in at church. We have discussed how most people don ‘t even notice that you have any scars or that many have gone below the surface of your skin.
This discussion reminded me of the scar JDaniel has on his forehead.
Last Halloween JDaniel tripped and fell into a coffee table at a friends house during a playgroup Halloween party. We had to rush to the hospital so he could get internal and external stitches. (I wrote about it on a guest post I wrote for Mom of a Monster and Twins.)
When we got home, he looked like Frankenstein for a few days. The external stitches stood out on his head.
Over time the external stitches dissolved and wore away. There was still a scar there and we don’t know if it will ever really go away.
Internally we can’t see the stitches or the scarring . We can feel the scar tissue that formed above them. It is like a ridge right below the surface.
We are supposed to massage it and try to break down the scar tissue two times a day for fifteen minutes each time. JDaniel hates it when I massage it . He does a better of tolerating it when my husband does it.
I am so glad he lets someone massage the scar tissue. We really don’t want him to keep it. Although it may be that no one never notices the scar tissue, we will know that it is there and that we at least tried to make it go away.
Mental, spiritual, and emotional scar tissue behaves in the much the same way that JDaniel’s physical scar tissue has. It forms calluses that can create very real scaring on our heart and minds.
I carried into adulthood calluses caused by the scars of my parents divorce and several other things from childhood.
I am going to be honest with you I am just like JDaniel is when I am trying to massage his scar tissue. I tried to avoid it, limit the time I allow for it to be broken down, and fussed at God for making me finally deal with.
Being challenged to hand over something old that you have been come used to is hard but, I am so glad that much of the scar tissue has been broken down and the areas under those old calluses has been allowed to heal.
Do you have calluses you need to have massaged by God? Are you ready to hand them over to him?
This post is linked to Mrs. Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday.
You are right it is so hard. When you have the right people with you though it is a little easier.
So that’s why Klout said you were influential in Frankenstein!
It’s hard to let go. Particularly when the scars run deep, over many years.
I have way too many scars. I’m glad most of yours have broken down over time.
It’s funny, I’ve been thinking about this a lot myself in recent months. I’ve been wondering how callused I’ve become because the scars came from cuts that severed so deep. Perhaps the solution for me is to find the right “masseuse”! 🙂 I think you’ve inspired me to have a little conversation with my husband tonight.
Thanks for sharing and I am glad some of your scars are broken down. Keep believing and keep praising!
I’m working on one now. I have held onto it and almost punished myself with it. I have been praying for it to fade lighter and in turn make me lighter. This was a great post. I hope people can see it as the reminder it is.
What a great analogy! I would never have thought about it that way. I obviously have never massaged my scar tissue and need to be more aware that it is there. Thanks for sharing!
Beautiful and thought provoking post. Scar tissue is such an excellent metaphor for those things that we carry with us and can’t let go of.
Oh, this is such a wonderful post! I actually wrote a post titled Scar Tissue and it’s all about emotional scars (http://mommyofamonster.com/2011/01/scar-tissue.html if you want to read it).
For some reason, they are so hard to let go of, but what a relief when you do!
I agree with Tammy above – great analogy! Yes, I think we all have some scar tissue – just noticed, take away the letter “t”, and it probably spells it right… We all have “issues” we are still dealing with!
Oh my, that’s a question I’ll have to think about.
I have some pretty deep scars and have actually lost a little of belief over the years. I believe that some things never really heal, just hurt a little less…
What a great analogy & reminder that we should be mindful that all of us have some internal scars.
WE all have scars I believe. Glad that some of yours are better now.
Isn’t is funny(although there’s a better word for this I know) but how some of those scars we all got just from childhood still carry along with us every day….this is so true…a lovely knowing post for K! Thanks!!
What a great post to make you think….
A truly lovely, spiritual post! We all have scars I think.
I really like the notion of “massaging” the scars. As uncomfortable as that may be, it’s much better than dealing with them forcefully!
Yes, I have callous! Lot’s of them!
That was a very nice post. I hope JDaniel’s scare heals nicely.
This is so full of heart, Deirdre.
{And yes, I can relate.}
What a wonderful analogy. And to answer your questions at the end, Yes and Yes. 🙂 I think every human being can relate to this…
Scars on the heart? I am happy to say they are healed by a happy marriage and by unconditional love of my little one. I hope JD’s scar disappears completely.
Such a beautiful post. We all have scars, some are more noticeable than others, but they all make us self conscious none the less. It is so hard to let someone massage the scars.
I think it’s most often the scars that don’t show that last the longest and hurt the most. We all have them, some worse than others. I also believe that as we bring those scars into view, they heal much faster and more completely. Beautiful post.
One of the hardest things I had to do as a Mom is hold down my daughter while she got stitches. The experience has made her afraid of doctors and dentists 🙁
I had a few scars, but a great marriage, healthy children, good friends have helped them fade.
Wonderful post for “K” day. We all have scars – inside and out. Wishing you a blessed day.
Wonderful post for “K” day. We all have scars – inside and out. Wishing you a blessed day.
Great analogy. Made me think!
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Great analogy. I’ll remember this!
Really something to think about. I think most people have scars, but some are deeper than others.
I wonder how many little kids have had stitches because of a coffee table? My guess is quite a few.
Since having Heart Failure take over my life.. I’ve cleaned up all my scar tissue, issues! Really, I’m so at peace with my life now and as for kids and scars, my three have all had stitches from one fall or another..
nice post
Sandy
Scars that don’t fade are better left un noticed, inside and out. Works for me… This was a great K post:)
This was a bit of a departure from your usual posts, but I liked it very much. In some way it probably speaks to every one of us – I know it did to me.
I have many scars needed to be healed by God, and he has taken some away.
So many scars that will always be there, but over time they lose that bumpy feel, and are just absorbed into who we are!
beautiful post!
What a beautiful, beautiful post.
I will think of this today…it definitely applies to me. Allowing anyone to try to heal my scars is frightening. They are things I don’t want to think of, much less share.
But maybe it’s time…a tiny scar at a time to let the healing massage begin.
Really lovely.
This was an absolute killer link.
A+
This post was very touching. Yes I am saying, “God’s got mine”, but ever so often I feel the callouses forming again and I have to remember to ask for a “massage”. Loving your blog via WOE 😉