When the two of us were together most of the day, I would say it all during the day. He must have loved hearing it, because he has started asking me if I love him when he gets up in the morning, when I pick him up from school, and when I tuck him in a night. It is like he has a deficit in his heart my telling him that I love him.
Starting school has been a transition for us. JDaniel being in school all day has been new for him. It means a longer time of following school rules. There are 27 children in his class and that means there are twenty six other children who need attention from the kindergarten teacher and aide. It means there isn’t someone reminding him that he is special and loved as often.
I am sure the teachers and aides at his school love the students, but it is a different kind of love than he has enjoyed being given to him when he was at home.
There aren’t the constant reminders of being loved. There weren’t constant reminders at home all the time though. We did and still do lock horns. He is expected to follow family rules and when he doesn’t follow them I am sure he doesn’t feel that I love him. JDaniel has shared that very thing with us from his “timeout” spot.
Still right at this moment he need more reassurances that I love him. In many ways he reminds me of a squirrel storing up nuts for the winter. It is like he is stockpiling reminders that I love him to carry with him to school. It feel like he should have had a number of I love yous stored from his younger years, (I know I said it often.) but he doesn’t seem to have enough.
There have been so many changes this fall. Kindergarten full day was a huge change, but there have been others. Knowing his dad and I are both job hunting has made him nervous about the future. We have tried to upbeat and remind him that God will give us the jobs He wants us to have. Having less time to play and do things together do to fuller days is something he has complained about.
So, I am snuggling with JDaniel in the morning and whispering into his ear, ” I love you.” I am placing notes in his lunch telling him that I love him. I am creating I love you lunches. Finally I am hugging him a little longer at bedtime and saying, ” I love you! I love you! I love you!”
We all can have times when the I Love You sections of our hearts need filling so, when JDaniel asks,” Mama, do you love me?” I will answer him back with words of love. He loves to hear them and I so love to say them.
You’re such a sweet mom!
I just got a lunchbox with a chalkboard on the inside so I can send little love notes to school w/the youngest. 🙂
Totally able to relate. Have a great Wednesday!
Oh I’m sure he knows how much you love him. .. even during uncertain times.
you are an awesome mom 🙂
each day when broxton gets out for school in carpool, i give him a “kissing hand” to get him through till I pick him up 🙂
Such a good mom.
I tell my boys I love all the time, too. And it’s the first thing I say to them when I pick them up from school.
I love that when I drop my daughter off at preschool, I yell across the playground, “Bye! I love you a lot!” And she responds in kind. I wonder how long she will do it back! Maybe forever? Maybe not. I love finding ways to show her, though.
I love this post! It’s a big thing for us to all tell each other we love each other, and even the little one has started in on it….I love you mostest most is what she tells me in response to my I love you. It’s such a great thing to hear!
So sweet! When I was growing up, saying I love You was just not something said as much, especially not from my dad. (My mom was very loving with her actions, and my dad, just was not one to show his emotions as readily. Over the years, especially after my mom passed away, my dad says I love you at the end of our phone calls…I have tried to call him every day…a few times it may be two days pass).
When our kids were growing up, we said it a lot. And we still do say I love you…they would love to go back and forth with us as to How much I love you…as big as the tallest tree…as big as the whole wide world…as big as the universe…as much as infinity and beyond… :o)
Blessings & Aloha!
I am visiting our grand baby, so will not be posting this week…maybe next or then again, maybe not til I get back in 3 weeks. …but I wanted to be sure to stop and catch up with the T posts….and say thank you for your lovely visit!
What a great post! I’m pregnant and I’m already trying to get into the habit of telling the baby how much I love her.
sweet post – i hope the job hunt is successful shortly!
You are such a sweet mom. I love this post!
Hugs,
Melody
it’s a nice way to grow up hearing. what a sweet mom you are.
have a great day.
Great Mom! ~ I love you is so important to say to those we love ~ wishing you the jobs you want ~
carol, xo
There are no better words to say over and over and over again in our homes. Whenever we say “I love you ” in our house – the other person always answers “I love you more”. Every phone call ends abruptly with an “I love you more” then click – hanging up before the other person can steal it back from you!! One day I found a sign that says “I love you more” and I bought it and it hangs proudly in our dining room! I hope we will always say it – our kids our 15, 12, 12, 10, 8 – and it is still going strong!!
This brought tears to my eyes. So beautifully written, drenched with love. I can feel your love for him. He’s such a blessed little man.
My family is the same way. It wasn’t until I had my son that I’ve ever heard my parents said “I love you”. God bless you with the new job soon. Sending you a big hug.
How thoughtful. I do hope you have luck with finding a job.
Awww…this is so sweet…I try to say it to my boys all the time too…I didn’t hear much while growing up, and I want to raise my boys different. Good luck on the job hunting! 😉
As I was reading this I thought of the love notes I put in my children’s lunch boxes — and then you said you did that! Mine always loved it! Little notes hidden in their pockets are fun too, and notes under their pillows.
I like the idea of their love tanks being able to be filled up to help them make it through the day- as yes when they are gone you can just hope and pray for the best and that they are okay. When they know they are loved, everything is a little bit easier.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. He’s a lucky boy!
=)
You are such an awesome mom!
Awesome show of love for what you do for him! He’s gonna grow up to be a great man because of it.
There is nothing more special than a Mother’s love…
I love you can never be uttered enough!
Thanks for linking to the letter “U”.
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