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Pause Life for a Moment- From Corporate to Domestic

Sometimes you read a blog and you just connect with the blogger’s words and writing style. That happened when I first visited From Corporate to Domestic. I love what she says and I love how she says it. Natalie is an amazing mom, wonderful blogger and fabulous commenter. I am so glad she is here sharing today.

Pause Life for a Moment

I could not have been more honored when JDaniel4’s Mom asked me to be featured on her Pause Life for a Moment feature. I always love reading her blog and her Muffin Tin Mondays and all the fun activities she does with her son. I hope to be able to be as creative in the learning department once my son is older. JDaniel is going to be such a smart little boy because of his mommy!

 

 

When my parents dropped me off to college, I knew that a chapter in my life had closed. I sat on my bed alone and reflected on how my life would never be the same as in high school. My relationship with my friends would change, I wouldn’t live at home anymore, and I would have a new found freedom.

 

 

This was the first time in my life that I wanted to push pause to have more time to say goodbye to my youth.

 

 

After 4 years of college, I had finally reached the moment that all college students are striving for—graduation. As my family, my boyfriend (now my husband), and my future in-laws left to return home I felt empty. I wasn’t ready to let go of my college years to go into the workforce. I sat alone in my apartment realizing the enormity of that moment. I would soon be leaving this apartment, this campus to embark on a new journey.

 

 

I wanted to push pause to have a few more years of my biggest worries being if I received an A in my classes, being on time to my part-time job, and where I was going to hangout with my friends.

 

 

After all this planning, my wedding day was finally here. I was in my beautiful wedding dress about to marry my best friend. Once I walked down the aisle I knew the night would fly by.

 

 

I wanted to push pause to enjoy this moment forever. Dancing the night away with my Prince Charming.

 

 

As the moment finally arrived for my son to make his debut into the world, all I could think of was I’ve been pushing forever—is he ever going to come out? But then he did, and I couldn’t believe how beautiful he was or how he was something my husband and I created together. A new life is such a miracle.

 

 

However, with all the hustle and bustle at the hospital I didn’t realize how fleeting these moments were. I didn’t think of pushing the pause button and before I knew it these moments were gone.

 

 

Today as I look at my 1 year old (as of last week) and can’t believe he’s no longer the little baby I used to swaddle and cuddle him on my chest. Now he’s a big boy on the go wanting to experience everything.

 

 

I wish I could push pause so I could revisit these treasured moments. They are only small for so long and before you know it your baby is all grown up.

 

 

Life is such a precious gift make sure to thoroughly enjoy every minute of it.  JDaniel4’s Mom thanks for having me over to reflect back on my “pause moments.”

Please take a moment to go and explore From Corporate to Domestic!

 

Pause Life for a Moment- A Wide Line

I love visit A Wide Line. Her blog is wonderful place. It is  beautiful to look at and wonderful to read. Her son Quinn is so cute! I love to read what he is learning and doing. His mom’s thoughts and ideas are inspiring.

 

Pause Life for a Moment

Filling Holes

 
I’m so honored to be here at JDaniel4’s Mom, one of my favorite blogs. Isn’t JDaniel4’s Mom just lovely? I love her series on pausing life for a moment, and I was thrilled when she asked me to participate.
 
Being fully present in the moment is a challenge for me. I’m the type of person who constantly charges full speed ahead toward the future – planning, preparing, paving my path. When I’m not paving, I’m usually wrapped up in knots worrying about the future – losing sleep, losing my hair and losing the days.
 
The concept of slowing down and savoring the moment never really occurred to me until I got pregnant for my son, Quinn. The pregnancy flew by, and for the first time in my life, I wanted nothing more than to slow time down so I could keep my baby close and safe just a little longer.
Quinn is now seven months old, and we’ve taken approximately 3,789 photos of him. A few weeks ago, I was looking through our photos, and I came across a picture.

According to the date on the photograph, Quinn was about four weeks old, and I have no recollection of the photo being taken. This realization felt like a punch in the stomach. How can I not remember this? How many other holes are there in my memory?
 
I began looking through all the photos more closely, and I came across several from Quinn’s early months that revealed more holes. While I remember the actual photographs being taken – the three of us together on Easter, Quinn and I on Mother’s Day, Quinn in his giraffe jammies – I can’t remember anything else about the events. I know we went to my Hub’s aunt and uncle’s house for Easter dinner, but I can’t recall anything specific about the day, other than our picture being taken. Aren’t photographs supposed bring back memories?
 
I spent the first months of Quinn’s life in a sleep deprived, post-partum depressed, “I-don’t-know-if-I-can-do-this” anxiety-filled haze. The fog has finally lifted, but the guilt for having been engulfed in it at all eats away at me. I look at my seven month old son, who is now more than twice the size of the wee baby in the photograph, and I want all that time back. Now his legs hang down far past my waist, and he has a hard time finding a cushy spot for his head on my shoulder. He rarely falls asleep on me anymore, and when he does, he twists and squirms, struggling to find a comfortable position. He’s no longer a little baby. He looks and act more and more like a little boy every day.
 
I do have many beautiful memories of Quinn as a tiny baby, but I know that some are forever lost in that fog. And that makes me sad. But I figure I have two options. I can feel bad for myself, wishing for the impossible – to get those moments back. Or I can make an effort to be more mindful in my parenting and be fully present in my moments with Quinn from now on so I don’t create new holes.
 
After I became a stay at home mom, I wrote a post that included a poem by Ruth Hulburt Hamilton entitled “Song for a Fifth Child.” My favorite line is the last one:
 
Oh, cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow,
But children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
I’m rocking my baby. Babies don’t keep.
 
These words are server as a reminder for me to pause and enjoy this fleeting time with my baby. The world can keep spinning and life will keep moving, but in the center of all the whirling and chaos are small moments I can capture and just be still – just Quinn, my husband and me.
 
This past Saturday, on our last day of vacation in Hawaii, I was putting Quinn down for a nap, and he fell asleep on my shoulder for the first time in so long. My first instinct was to put him down. I had so much to do – I had to pack, wash a couple loads of laundry, take a shower…. But then I realized that’s part of why his first few months of life are a blur to me. So I quieted the urgent voice in my head and slowly sat back down on the bed. As I laid my head on the pillow to take a nap with my baby son, I thought, “This is exactly what I should be doing.” Two hours later we both woke up refreshed and happy, and that nap was the best part of our vacation. 
 

Please take a moment and visit A Wide Line.

 

Pause Life for a Moment- Mommy of a Monster and Twins

JDaniel starts preschool this morning. This wonderful post by Natalie of Mommy of a Monster and Twins reminds me that time is fleeting and JDaniel will not always be there to ask me to play.
I love visiting Mommy of a Monster and Twins. Natalie write very honest and funny posts about being a mom. I know I will find posts that will challenge me, humor me or make me cheer “Yeah!” when I read them. I hope  that after reading her post below you will stop by and read more of her work.

Pause Life for a Moment

 

Thoughts from Mommy of a Monster and Twins

I opened the front door and was immediately hit with a wall of heat. It was a typical summer day in Southern California, and by 9 in the morning was already unbearably hot. I had a million things to do: blog posts to write, freelance writing to get done, not to mention laundry and cleaning to do. And on top of that, the kids spilled juice all over the floor at breakfast which meant that I was also going to get to mop my kitchen floor for the second day in a row.

I wasn’t looking forward to doing any of it. But it had to get done, so I got to it first thing in the morning, by taking out the trash. And of course while I was out there, I noticed the weeds that needed to be pulled and the leaves that had to be raked up. Two more things to add to the never-ending To Do list.

The kids ran outside, Lila and Mia in their diapers and Ethan in his swim trunks. “Mom!”, he said. “It’s so nice and sunny! Can we play in the sprinklers?”

“No Ethan. I have too much work to do.”

“You have to get on the computer again? You are always on the computer! Can’t you just play with us?”

Then the two-year-old twins chimed in with “Play, Mommy! Play!”

Which is exactly what I decided to do.

Because the computer, the writing, the blog reading and writing will always be there and there will always be too much of it to ever finish completely. In 20 years, when my kids are (hopefully!) out of the house, I know I will look back on these days and wish that I would’ve spent more time with them, having fun and enjoying them.

So the last couple of weeks, I have been on the computer less and less. In fact, on Friday and Saturday I didn’t check emails or write anything! I have been pausing the everyday chaos of life and enjoying my children – watching them run and play and laugh and learn. I have been taking pleasure in those small moments that I know are really the big ones.

And guess what? I honestly haven’t missed the computer all that much. I think a lot of us bloggers get sucked in to feeling like we have to be on the computer 24/7 or that we might miss something. I’m trying to find the balance of both worlds instead of being slave to just the one…even though I love it and could never give it up entirely.

I realize that I need the pauses and I want the pauses too. Thank you Deirdre, not only for the honor of sharing your space with you, but also for making me pause. Because it was reading through all of these beautiful pauses here that made me realize that I haven’t been pausing enough.

How will you pause this week?

 

Great Posts I Came Across This Week- November 20th

Child Related
Delightful Learning has an amazing unit she created for the book Corduroy. I love her button snake, graphing, texture, and all the other activities she did.
Little Helping Hands has a create post on creating a chameleons in her post Colorful Chameleons. The activity is genius.
Advent Related
I Blame My Mother has a great list of activities to do with your children during Advent in her post Celebrating Advent.
The Activity Mom has a great post called 2010 Activity Advent Calender. She has great learning activities to do during advent in her post.
Mom Related
Oops..There Goes My Mind has wonderful poem called I Heart Children. That will make you laugh, smile and maybe cry.
I Needed to Read This
Some Day You Gotta Dance has a post called A Prayer. That will make you think and then maybe even pray.
Recipe
Red Couch Recipes has an amazing recipe for a Turkey Cranberry Wreath. Yum!
Giveaway on Another Blog
Tiger Tales is hosting a six book giveaway on their blog. Here are the titles:

Starry Night, Sleep Tight: A Bedtime Book of Lullabies by Gail Yerrill

A Long Way from Home by Elizabeth Baguley

Hush, Little Baby illustrated by Petra Brown

I Love You All Year Long by Steve Metzger

If I Were…a Firefighter by Pat Hegarty

If I Were…a Princess by Pat Hegarty

 
 
 
 
 

Great Posts I Came Across This Week- November 13

Mom Related
Things I Can’t Say has a wonderful meme called Pour Your Heart Out. The post she wrote last week is similar in its feelings about blogging to the Southern Institute post I mentioned above but is written in her own style. It is called Pour Your Heart Out: When Blogging Changes.
Mommy of a Monster (I Mean Toddler) has a great guest post by Organic Mother with Cool Whip called Baby Boot Camp that you will love.

 

Bloggers Need to Know This
Eat Move Make, had a post last week on scrapping. I had no idea what it was or how to stop it. Her post called Have You Ever Had Your Blog Scraped? taught me facts I needed to learn about it.

 

Marvelous Mom Reviews has a post called Featured “Twitter Partygoer” At TweeParties that introduced me to the fact that I can get an email letting me know about some of the Twitter parties coming up.

 

Great Posts I Came Across This Week- November 6

Christmas Related

Fawn Dear has a number of Christmas resources for planning in a post called The Best Holiday Planner – By You, For You!

Giver’s Log also has a great Handmade Holiday Organizer. I love that you can print it out and carry it on a metal ring.
Mother Related
A time to be Faithful in the Little things… is an inspirational post by There is a Time. It is all about lessons you can learn from your children.

Sweetest Jane has a super post on How to Get Your Babies to Clean the Bathroom. JDaniel is big into cleaning and helping right now. Her little guy reminds me a lot of JDaniel.

Sellabit has a beautiful post about her daughter I really loved. She called her post-Growing Up..

Blogging Related
Confessions of a Cookbook Queen has a wonderful post called Blogger’s Code of Ethics. It is so well written and hits on really important points about blogging.
Child Related

Love and Lollipops has a cute idea for helping your children learn colors in her post Colour Fun #9- Buckets of Colour. While you are there you may want to check out her World in a Box.

 
 
 

Great Posts I Came Across This Week- October 30

Child Related

I love the Personalized Subway shirts that The Mother Huddle made. I wish I had the talent to make one for JDaniel.

The Ramblings of a Crazy Woman has a great Halloween Bottle Bowling or Just a Cute Craft. This looks really fun.

Honorable Mention has a really cute post on Spider Treat Pouches for Kids.

Fantastic Find has great ways to have Halloween Fun with Toilet Paper Tubes.

Connecting with Other Bloggers

Kludgy Mom is looking for Thanksgiving-related posts for an e-book she is putting together. Submissions have to be in by November 5th.

 

Momma Made It Look Easy shares great tips she learned in a post called Stuff I Learned at Bloggy Boot Camp.

Recipes

She Scribes shared Healthy Halloween Recipes from Weelicious.com’s Catherine McCord. JDaniel would love the Freaky Franks.

Baked to Perfection has the most awesome Candy Corn Themed Chocolate Covered Pretzels. I meant to make them this week and never got to them. I think they will still work for Thanksgiving.

Be Different… Act Normal has the cutest Tentacle Pot Pie. It looks like it is climbing right out of the bowl.

Inside BruCrew Life has an amazing recipe for apple nachos in a post called Tricked Out Apples.

 

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Great Posts I Came Across This Week- October 16

Fun Post
Ostriches Look Funny has a super fun post called Because I Don’t Own a Foghorn. Her neighbors will be so glad she doesn’t own one.
Recipe
Mo’ Betta has renewed my interest in trying to make biscuits. Her recipe for Low-Fat Biscuits would go over big at my house.
Homemaking Related
Frugal with a Flourish has 10 Ways to Use Mason Jars in Your Home. I found all the ideas fascinating.
Child Related

Today’s Fabulous Finds has the cutest ideas for Halloween-related fish she shares in the post-Halloween Fish. Say what?

The Attached Mama has set up the Ultimate Alphabet Craft Collection – Master List. It is a great place to find and share ideas and posts you have had related to the alphabet and crafts.

The Fryman Four has wonderful activities to share in their Pumpkin Life Cycle post. I love the balloon pumpkins.

 
 
 

Great Posts I Came Across This Week- October 9

Child Related
In Between Laundry’s Busy Tray looks like something JDaniel would love to have one to use at home and on the road.
Mom of Two Boys has a wonderful Corn Crib post. JDaniel would love to climb in and play with his trucks in the mound of corn she shares in her post.
Recipes
A Cup of Jo has a recipe that is as easy as pie for pumpkin pie dip. It looks wonderful.
Almost Unschoolers’ Pilgrim Pumpkin Pie in the Microwave looks easy and so delicious to make.

 
 

I Needed To Read This Post
Blue Cotton Memory has a super post called Not a Grasshopper Caught in the Grip that reminded me that I have God holding me in His hands.

 

Ooops… There Goes My Mind has a post called Counting the Ways that helped be break out of mom brain funk earlier in the week.