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Pause Life for a Moment- Mama Wants This

Alison of Mama Wants This the amazing gift of looking for and sharing answers to motherhood questions we all want to know. She is the mom of a cute little boy and a will be a mom for the second time in the late Spring. I love to read the lessons she is learning and the joys she has in being a mom.

Mama Wants ThisPause Life for a Moment
 

Opening my eyes, I was momentarily blinded by the bright sunlight. I blinked, trying to remember what day it was and where I was. I looked at the clock – 8 0’clock.

I stretched as I remembered, Sunday, it is Sunday. It was a strange sensation, feeling the warming sun on my legs. I haven’t woken up after the sun rose in nearly two years.
I got up slowly and padded to the bathroom.
As the hot water streamed down my back, pounding lightly on my tired shoulders, I felt myself relax for the first time in weeks.
I allowed myself a few extra minutes in the shower and looked at my growing belly for what seemed like the first time.
“Sorry, baby, Mama hasn’t paid you to mind for a few weeks, ” I whispered to my growing second child.
I finally drag myself out of the comforting lull of the hot water, dried myself and pulled on my clothes.
I walked through the quiet of our new home, unused to the lack of the toddler running around, counting 1 to 10, and hanging onto my legs.
I said a quiet thank you to my wonderful in-laws for braving their first overnighter with their grandson, granting me this unusual leisurely Sunday morning.
I turned on the coffee machine, letting it warm up in readiness for my husband’s must-start-day-with-coffee first cuppa.
I got myself a glass of juice and settled down in front of my laptop.
Without guilt, I checked my email, chatted on Twitter with friends I missed, busied myself on Facebook and did a little writing.
As I went about my online life, my husband finally got up and I hear the sizzle of the pan, as butter heats up.
“French toast?” I called out.
“The BEST French toast,” he replied.
We ate slowly. We talked. We wondered how the toddler and his grandparents were and resisted calling to check on them. We washed up.
I retreated back to the living room and curled up in my corner of the sofa.
I soaked in the moment – the only sound in the room, the quiet whirring of the ceiling fan.
I reflected back on the past month, when life was a whirlwind of activity, as we finally received the keys to our new house. Things had to be purchased, the house had to be painted, lights and fixtures had to be sorted, packing had to be done, cleaning of both houses had to happen – and life went mad.
Life with a toddler is hectic.
Life with a toddler, and being pregnant, even more hectic.
Life with a toddler, pregnant AND moving house, just insane.
And so, curled up on that sofa, I closed my eyes to savor a few more minutes of just doing nothing, but listen to my breath and give in to my thoughts.
I opened my eyes, pushed myself off my little comfortable spot and went out the door to pick my son up.
And life resumed.
Sometimes in the whirlwind of life pausing for a moment can help you be ready to take on the flurry of commitments, activities and special people in our lives. Alison beautifully illustrates that in this post.

Please stop by Mama Wants This and let Alison know how much you enjoyed her post.

 

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Pause Life for a Moment- Bytes of Memory

I have been reading Bytes of Memory for a long time. She is a wonderful mom. The kind of mom that makes fall bucket lists, amazing crafts, and sets out a hot chocolate buffet while you sit around a fire pit. She makes me want to follow her lead and join her in fun!

Pause Life for a Moment
There are times in life when life gets paused for you. There are other times when you have to make pausing a conscious decision. For me, this includes making time for my husband. When I start thinking about planning a date, thoughts, such as “now is just not the right time” start flying around in my head, followed by thoughts of “when would be a better time to plan it.” Then I start thinking of excuses such as:

When life slows down… When we have some extra money… When someone offers to watch Sammy… When we have something fun planned… When there is a good movie coming out.. When we are not so tired…

These are the things that run through my head when I want to have a date with my husband, but it’s at this point that I need to remember to put life on pause for a moment and be intentional with my time with Tim. It’s easy for these excuses to cause me to put the idea out of my head completely, but it shouldn’t. Intentional one-on-one time with my husband is more important than any reason not to. There will always be something that seems more pressing or of having a greater priority. Even when dishes are stacked up from dinner or the laundry hamper is overflowing, you need to pause life and enjoy that time. You don’t have to do something amazing to make it an enjoyable time. You don’t even have to leave your house or pay a baby sitter.

Below I have listed a few things that Tim and I have done in the past to get some time together:

Trade babysitting with friends – We did this for a few years with another family where once a month we got to go out on a date and once a month we watched their children. This saves a lot of money on a baby sitter and helps you pause the other things going on and get out of the house for a date.

Eat dinner late – We will sometimes let Sammy eat dinner and get him down for bed. Then we make something different for the two of us and just relax while we eat our dinner.

Get up before the kids – Tim and I have gotten up before Sammy and made coffee to drink together on the back deck while the day is still calm. It doesn’t take long, maybe even as little as 15 minutes, to enjoy a cup of coffee together before the craziness of the morning starts.

Trade services for babysitting – Tim and I are both computer geeks, so we often repair computers for our friends and family and are glad to accept babysitting as ‘payment’.

Plan a game night – After the kids are in bed, get out the board games and start playing. Not into board games? Maybe play a video game, watch a movie, etc.


Your relationship with your husband is important, so remember to take time and plan special things to do with him. Be encouraged to take some time now and plan something special to do together. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money or be elaborate to make a huge impact. Now, go pause life and enjoy a special time with your husband.

Please pause for a moment and visit Bytes of Memory today.

How do you find together time?

 

Pause Life for a Moment- Kiddothings

I am so pleased to share Kiddothings with you today. She is a wonderful writer, a supportive blogging friend, and a wonderful mom.
 Yesterday she shared that family history is a wonderful post called Family Tree. It is a great example of why I love to read her work and why to follow her blog.
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My Pause Button

I am a SAHM to three – a 4-year-old boy, a 2-year-old girl, and an 8-month-old blog. I have to admit that I’ve been spending a considerable amount of time blogging ever since I started my blog in February. It was pretty tough in the first 3 months because I was at that stage where everything was new to me. I felt like a new mother – I slept late, I poured hours into writing posts, visiting blogs, commenting, and designing my blog. I nurtured my “new baby”. As a result, my attention was drawn away from my real kids. My daughter was watching way too much T.V because that was the only way I could get some time off to fiddle with my blog. My son was playing a lot on his own. I burnt the family dinner twice in 2 days. I certainly felt like a failure on the domestic front.
Then, I stumbled on Deirdre’s blog and her feature called Pause Life for a Moment. I developed a ‘pause button’ from reading the wonderful posts here that were reminders for me to pause life for my kids and family. I have had many pauses since then and these are instances where my ‘pause button’ was pushed when I happen to be blogging or preoccupied with something else…

 

When my son says to me…

 

“Mommy, can you play with me please?”

 

“Mommy, can you read me a book?”

 

“Mommy, can I tell you a story?”

 

When he tells me he misses his grandmother “veeeeery much”.

 

When I notice that he has been playing alone for a while.

 

When my daughter asks to watch Barney.

 

When she is being a rascal to her brother.

 

When she calls out to me “Mami come!”

 

When there’s a great opportunity for family bonding.

 

When the kids have been watching too much T.V.

 

I pause to give them the much-needed attention during these times because I am reminded that these moments will not last. The times when they want me. The times when I am needed as a playmate, a storyteller, a peacekeeper, a confidante, a listener. The times when I can truly be a MOTHER in every sense of the word. I know these times will pass too soon.

 

And I want NO REGRETS.
I don’t want to stop blogging either because it has given me an avenue to express my thoughts and feelings. It has allowed me to interact and learn from others I meet online who share the same experiences as a mother. It has given me a much-needed me-time.

 

And my ‘pause button’ helps me to achieve some BALANCE.

Please stop by Kiddothings and read more of her work.

 

On the Road to La-La Home Daycare with Cupcakes

I am not here today! I am sharing a post on cupcakes and being special even if you are plain at La-La Home Daycare.

I hope you will take a moment to stop by and visit me there. La-La Home Daycare is a wonderful family blog that shares crafts, learning and so much more I know you will find a joy to visit.

Please stop by!

Pause Life for a Moment- Be Still a Minute

Sometimes you visit a blog and realize you and the blog’s writer are kindred spirits. I felt that way when I first visited Be Still a Minute’s blog. Her words hit home with me each time I read them.  I haven’t been through all the things she has in her life, but I do feel like I have learned from them. You are blessed to get to read some of her wonderful today.

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I’m Gonna Miss This
We live in a small town. The kind you can’t go to the post office or grocery store without running into someone you know and it never fails that each time I have my boys (ages 12 and 8) with me, someone will say, “My, those boys sure are growing up on you… getting so big, aren’t they?!”
And I always say, “Yes, they sure are.”
Funny how that happens. But when we see them every day we don’t realize just how fast it is happening which is why it is so very important to take time out now and then, pause our lives for a moment, snap a few photos, write a blog post or just take a big deep breath of the here, the present, the right now….the life that is happening all around us.
I’m not going to lie, life with my two boys, who are in an almost constant state of sibling rivalry, can get a little hectic at times. Okay that’s an understatement. It can get downright insane and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to take deep breaths while simultaneously counting down and praying for the strength not to jump on the crazy train and bang my head against the wall.
And yet somehow, miraculously, by the grace of God, I find myself remembering to be thankful for the noise, the dirty socks all over the house that never match up when I wash them, the cleats, book bags, and ball gloves that I’m forever tripping over, the stinky guinea pig cage that I know I will have to remind them to clean yet again, the countless trips to the baseball field, the piles of dirty laundry that never end and the all too common arguments over the bathroom sink, laptop or last chocolate chip cookie.
Because just like that Trace Adkins song that was so popular a couple of years ago I know that one day, in the not so distant future, I’m gonna miss this….I’m gonna want this back…I’m gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast…
I already find myself missing the days when they still sat on my lap, held my hand, couldn’t go anywhere without that favorite ball cap or priceless Curious George stuffed animal, asked for “piggy-ride backs” to bed and thought I knew everything.
So I will continue to remind myself to pray, breathe, pause life for a moment, and just be thankful for the present…the here… the right now, no matter how chaotic it is, because those two boys of mine? They sure are growing up on me!
Please stop  by Be Still a Minute and browse through her amazing posts.

 

Pause Life for a Moment- Bees with Honey

Today’s guest poster is a mom after my own heart.  Bruna of Bees with Honey is truly special. I see beauty in her lovely blog, get to read her heartfelt words in her posts, but it was really through chatting with her via e-mail and on Twitter that I really saw her inner beauty.

We have never met in person yet I feel like I have had wonderful conversations with a friend when I talk with her.

You are so blessed to get to read her words here today.

Pause Life for a Moment

I was really surprised when Deirdre asked me to write something for her Pause Life for a Moment series. More than surprised, I was honoured that she wanted me to come on over and share a story.

Those of you who already read my blog or chat with me on Twitter will not be surprised when I tell you that I have three girls ranging in ages from 3 to 5 to 13. I am also a part-time first grade teacher. I work half the week in a classroom and all week at home. My work in the home is never ending. Those of you who are Mothers know exactly what I mean.

Needless to say, life at my house is usually really busy. The hubby and I are constantly trying to balance our work life with being loving and involved parents to our children and spouses to each other. Its not always easy. Most of the time, we find ourselves flying by the seat of our pants. With only three weeks left until the kids are back in school, we are enjoying every last minute of our summer vacation.

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My Pause for Life moment comes from our only camping trip of the summer. All five of us left our civilized residence and headed out to Harrison Hot Springs in beautiful British Columbia. The intention of our trip was to expose our girls to the beautiful existence that is nature and live without the amenities we have at home. No phone, no electronic games, no computer, no TV, no IPods, no toys. We wanted the girls to see how just the simple things in life can be exciting and fulfilling.

Daddy taught the girls how to pitch a tent. Everyone helped by doing their part. The girls were attentive and when the tent went up, they all got to go inside and set up their sleeping bags and pillows.




Big B took her two little sisters on a mini hikes throughout our stay. They went exploring through the bushes, trees and plants around our camp. Big B kept the girls entertained with various scavenger hunts and some good old make-believe Spy game. I have never seen them so engaged.

During our camping adventure, Daddy took the girls out in a canoe to explore the lake and get a taste of fishing. You can imagine their faces when Daddy caught a fish and reeled it in. Little B helped to clean out the fish guts and Daddy cooked it on the mini BBQ.

We spent a day at a local beach close to the campground. The girls frolicked in the water, covered themselves in the sand and tried building a sandcastle. They played happily, cooperatively and without any whining whatsoever. It was so relaxing.

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At no time during any part of our camping trip did any child complain they were bored. The 13 year-old spent most of her time playing with her sisters or talking with us around the campfire. Our nights were spent singing campfire songs, roasting marshmallows and making Smores. When it was time to leave, the wee girls shed a few tears in protest and asked when we could come back to do it all over again. We assured them a summer camping trip would become an annual event.

Oh, how I miss the days when life was much simpler.

I miss the hours upon hours kids use to play outside with a ball or a stick and the use of their imagination to create the play.

I miss the days when people would sit around and talk or sing songs.

I miss the smell of campfire on my clothes.

I miss the taste of hot dogs roasted over a fire.

My Pause Life for a Moment comes from a wonderful weekend spent camping with my family in the outdoors, under the stars, partnered with nature and away from the busy place we call home.

Please take a moment to share on Bruna’s blog  Bees with Honey your thoughts about this post.

Pause Life for a Moment- Life Without Pink

As the mom of a boy, I love to find blogs hosted by moms of boys. Life Without Pink is one that I really enjoy. Tina, who hosts Life Without Pink, has two sons. One of her sons is younger than JDaniel and one is older. She has her hands full, but her posts remind me that boys are fun and can grow past the tough times.
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Mom can you get off the computer and come play with me?”

My five year old reached out his hand and started pulling me off my chair.

I looked into his big blue eyes and that’s when I had my ‘aha!’ moment.

I turned off the computer, grabbed both boys by the hands and went outside to play.

We never had so much fun.

I didn’t check email, follow up with work, or worried about cleaning up the crumbs from lunch.

No, I was soaking up this moment with my boys and realized this is where I need to be.

Watching their eyes light up and hearing them giggle, filled me with joy.

I have a hard time slowing down because working full-time from home and keeping up with every day life is never ending.

But I have realized then I need to set limits because one day….

I will wish that my boys would grab my arm one more time to play a game, or watch a movie together.

I will be glad I was standing in the driveway when the bus pulls up and being the first person to ask them, “How was your day?”.

I will miss the hectic schedules and loud noise coming from the playroom.

My boys will be grown and I’ll be grabbing their arms asking them to come play with me.

The Internet and household chores aren’t going anywhere but my boys are…and I’m pausing to enjoy it!

Please stop by and visit with Tina on Life Without Pink! You will be so glad you did.