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By Deirdre



By Deirdre

JDaniel and the boys next door have been waiting and waiting for the leaves from the birch trees in our backyard to fall.
When there was finally enough on the ground, they had a wonderful time playing in them and with them. I loved getting to take pictures of the boys enjoying the leaves at the end of last week.
My maternal grandmother loved to quote the poem Trees by Joyce Kilmer when I was little. She would recite it word by word. When tried to decide how to share pictures of their joyous leaf play, I decided to use part of that poem.
The first stanza and last stanza of this poem are Joyce Kilmer’s. The rest of the stanzas are my words.

I think that I shall never see
Boys more happy playing beside a tree.

The leaves it shed
won’t be left for dead.
They will be raked into a pile
And jumped into preschool style.
The leaves will be thrown into the air
to descend inside clothes and onto hair.
They will be loaded in a boy’s car
and driven, but not very far.
Those leaves will become a brand new heap
They will be jumped into again and again by boys who leap.
Poems are made by fools like me,
But only God can make a tree.
This post is linked to Mama Kat’s Writing Workshop and Mrs. Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday.
P.S. JDaniel is wearing his yellow Thankfulness Tree leaf that says “Dad”. He said he wanted his dad close to him.
By Deirdre



By Deirdre


By Deirdre

Mama Kat lists several topics to write about in her Writer’s Workshop each week. One of the ideas for this week was 22 things you have done.
My list of things we have done is going to focus on things we have done for Halloween at our house or the history of Halloween at our house. I am going to tell you a few things have done each year since JDaniel was born.
First Year
Dressed my 7 month old son in a pumpkin costume.
Had my husband and I dress like farmers.
Left my mom at my house to pass out candy while we wheeled JDaniel in his stroller around the neighborhood.
Read the book Redeeming Halloween by Kim Wier and Pam McCune to start thinking about how we wanted to celebrate the holiday.
Decided to pass out baked goods and/or candy to neighbors whose homes we trick or treated to as a way to reach out to neighbors. We passed out cookies with the a message wishing them a blessed Halloween attached to the bag.
Second Year
Had two cute costumes and had JDaniel wear both to different events.

Took JDaniel to a nursing home to attend a Halloween party for seniors and toddlers dressed as a lion’
Started the tradition of carving JDaniel’s pumpkins the day before Halloween.
Learned that he doesn’t like to touch pumpkin pulp.
Dressed him as a dinosaur for a library event and for trick or treating.
Bought a reusable Halloween bag with Frankenstein on it to use as a trick or treat bag.
Started trick or treating with the family next door
Ran from the front of our subdivision with a wet dinosaur when it started pouring.
Third Year
Had JDaniel decide that he didn’t want to wear the costume I bought at a consignment sale.

Decided that his choice of a Dalmatian costume was a great choice.

Coveted the ability one of my friends had to make super cute Halloween cupcakes.
Took JDaniel to Nevin’s farm to go on a hay ride and select a pumpkin.
Discovered my husband could eat as much of JDaniel’s Halloween candy as I could. If I was going to sneak Snickers, I was going to have to do it when we came home from trick or treating.
Fourth Year
Let JDaniel pick out his own robot costume.
Paid full price for a Halloween costume.
Had a robot running around the house in early October when the costume came in.
Tried to make pumpkin soup my family would eat twice.
I hope you enjoyed our family history of Halloween.
What are some of you traditions?
This post is linked to my Halloween Traditions linkup, Mrs. Matlock, and Mama Kat’s Writing Workshop.
By Deirdre

If you buy Halloween candy early when it is on sale, you might bring temptation into the house.
If you hide it in the closet near the computer where you spend time blogging, you maybe able to hear the candy call to you.
If you open the bag to have just one piece, you may create a way for your hand to go into and out of the bag easily.
If your hand goes in the bag repeatedly, the amount of candy in the bag goes down quickly.
If you try to sneak into the candy bag and don’t look to the right and the left before crossing to its hiding place, your son might be slyly watching you.
If your son sees that you now have candy in your hand, you may have to reach in and grab a piece for him.
If you son knows where the candy is hidden, he might tell your husband.
If your husband and son know where the candy is hidden, they might have a candy feast when you leave them alone to run an errand.
If your family has a candy feast, you may find that there is any empty plastic bag in the hiding place.
If all the Halloween candy in your house has been enjoyed two weeks before Halloween, you may have to go to the store and buy more.
If you have a new stash of Halloween candy, you may have to find a new hiding place for it and keep it sealed.
If you here the candy calling to you, you may need to push it further into its hiding place and avoid it like crazy.
I hope you don’t have an early candy intake issue at your house. We haven’t struggled with this at our house before.
This issue may not have come up before because, I have always kept the bags sealed and spent time away from my hiding place. The hall closet was not a good place to hide it this year.
This post is linked to Mrs. Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday!
By Deirdre
Mrs. Matlock asked us to look for autumn colors this week and share a post on them. JDaniel and I took a walk around our yard and this is what we found.







We talked about the colors we discovered. There were shades of red, purple, yellow, green and orange.
What other autumn colors should we look for?
What colors are you seeing where you live?
This post is linked to Outdoor Wednesday and Alphabe Thursday.
By Deirdre

Serves 12.


By Deirdre
“You can not serve two masters,” I tell Jdaniel when he questions why something he is doing or has seen is bad or just not good.
We have started going over scripture memory verses with JDaniel at meal times using a verse packet called Foundation Verses from Desiring God Ministries and “No one can serve two masters” from Matthew 6:24a was one of the first ones.
He has been told that it means you can’t do what God wants and what you want if they are two vary different things.
As a three year old with tons of his own ideas, he understands that he doesn’t always get his own way. He would love to master of all things, but he really wants to please God too.
We have reminded him that it isn’t his way or our way. It is God’s way we are all trying to follow. He has been reminded that Mom and Dad still struggle with this too.
He seemed to be understanding what we were saying, but we weren’t sure.
Then something happened that made it crystal clear for him. We got three boxes of cereal in the mail with Star Wars characters on them. If you put the boxes together they made a panoramic scene.

JDaniel had no idea who they were or what they were from, but he was fascinated by the robots in the picture.
I tried telling him a little about each of the characters and we watched some short clips on Youtube that weren’t violent. They mostly concentrated on R2D2 and C-3PO. He loved watching them.
Then he started asking about Darth Vader. He has a large picture on the third box. Who was he? Was he bad? Why does he look like a robot?
“Well, Darth Vader was a man who had to make a choice,” I told him.
“He had to chose who to follow and he chose the wrong master,” I continued.
“So, he was bad?” JDaniel asked.
“Yes, he was bad and he didn’t turn away from bad things when he could have (Yes, I know he did in the end.),” I replied.
“Not good,” JDaniel replied back.
“Really not good,” I answered back.
We haven’t really gotten to all the Darth Vader does in the movies series. My husband did show him one of the scenes where Darth Vader is fighting with a light saber. We have chatted more about making good choices and following through with doing the right thing.
I am going to be hosting a giveaway that includes the three cereal boxes with the Star Wars scenes and a $25 Walmart gift card this Sunday. I hope you will stop by and enter it. You never know what conversations the boxes could stir up at your house.
This post is linked to Mrs. Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday.
By Deirdre
Xanthous- Of the fair haired type; having brown, auburn, yellow, flaxen or red hair.
Mary Lee sat in one of the rocking chairs just outside of the general store located on the Nevin’s farm. She was surrounded by pumpkins off all shapes in sizes. The three pumpkinsat her feet would be going home with one her grandchildren. She was asked to guard them while the children went to explore the play area in front of the general store. Guarding pumpkins while getting to rock on lovely day had sounded like a wonderful idea to her.
It had been a wonderful morning. Mary Lee’s daughter Sarah and her three children had come to get her at about 9 and they had arrived at the farm by 9:30. Thankfully it was short ride from Simpsonville to the Nevin’s farm in Woodruff. It is had been even a minute longer Davey, Martha’s three year old, would have jumped out the car and run the rest of the way. He was so excited about picking out a pumpkin and getting to go on hayride.
They had barely parked the car when Davey and his older brother William and other sister Lydia had all run to check out the John Deere tractor attached to the hay wagon.
Following a very bumpy hayride each of her grandchildren has taken a very long time selecting just the right pumpkin. Just when it looked like the right one had been found a more right pumpkins would come into their view.
Once they had made their final choices. They had wanted to check out the farms animals. What fun it had been to see a small pink pig kissing a neighboring donkey! All of the children had giggled! Mary Lee and Martha had both smiled at how adorable they looked.
After all the animals had been oohed and ahhed over,children had been ready to bound to the swinging tunnels and play teepee.
Martha had helped Mary Lee gather up the pumpkins and bring them around the rocking chairs before Martha head off to see that the children had gotten up to.
While the children played and Martha tried to keep an eye of her wild tribe, Mary Lee rocked and took in the beauty of the farm.
Mary Lee had spent many summers working on a local farm detasseling corn and doing whatever else Mr. O’Brien needed done. The work was hard under the hot Carolina sun, but Mrs. O’Brien would always send out gallon jugs of sweet tea and lemonade to cool the work crew off and they had paid a very fair wage.
Getting to work beside the O’Brien’s oldest son John made the time fly on days when they were given the same area of the farm to work on. John had blonde hair that glistened in the sun and smile that would brighten anyone’s day or at least Mary Lee had thought so. John wasn’t a big talker. He tended to concentrate on the job at hand. Mary Lee really didn’t care. Just being near John was enough to set her heart a flutter.
John had been a senior in high school when Mary was a freshman. She had known who he was, but hadn’t really spent much time around him until her Uncle Budd had mentioned to her that the O’Brien’s were looking for summer help.
For the past three summers she had looked forward to getting to see John while she worked. He seemed to grow taller and more handsome as each year past. She had heard that he would be leaving in the fall to start a job in Chicago. Mary Lee would have to go out of her way to catch as many glimpses of him as she could she had decided at the beginning of the summer.
She had been quite surprised when he offered to get her a glass of cool lemonade on a particularly hot day in July. She had been barely able to nod her head yes and say that she would love some.
When he returned carrying glasses brimming with cool lemonade and motioned to a bent old apple tree, she had barely been able to move one foot after the other to get to it. The world seemed to have started to moving more slowly.
Yet she tried to look calm when she finally made it there and sat down beneath the tree to wait to be handed her glass.
She tried to remember what they had said as they sat under the tree so long ago, but she couldn’t remember specifically what either of them had said. She did remember smiling a lot and taking really small sips of the cool lemonade. There had been a cool breeze under that bent old tree and she remembered she had felt like she was floating on a cloud.
From that day on John had talked to her frequently. He would ask about her family and her how she was doing. He had never asked her to go to the movies or offered to drive her home.
She would have been over the moon if he had, but she knew that he was moving away at the end of the summer and she tried to enjoy every moment that she was around him.
“He was wonderful boy,” Mary Lee whispered to herself.
She had heard that he still lived outside Chicago. He had married a girl he had met at church and had five boys.
“Remember John today was special, but I am sure glad that the man waiting at home for me make his lunch is Frank,” Mary Lee said to herself as she rocked back and forth in the autumn sun.
There was no man that had ever made her heart flutter more than that dark haired man she met in college her sophomore year. It was Frank that had lengthened days and made her truly feel she was floating.
Watch for the story of how Mary Lee met Frank! It will appear on the last Thursday in October.
This post is linked to Mrs. Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday and I’m sharing my it with Momma Made It Look Easy. You can too.