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growing & learning with him
Deirdre Smith writes/owns JDaniel4’s Mom. After twenty years as a elementary school and technology resource teacher in Northern Virginia, she became a stay at home mom in upstate South Carolina. Her blog features ways she and her 5 year old are exploring learning, crafting, creating healthy meals and living life to its fullest. Deirdre can also be found on twitter as @jdaniel4smom and on her blog's FB page. You can also check her out on Google+.
By Deirdre

By Deirdre
JDaniel is old enough to start some of the sports programs at our local YMCA. While he is old enough to attend the programs, I am not sure that he would really be playing the sports they are teaching him.

Have you ever seen the three year old soccer games?
A bunch of children are all running the same direction chasing a ball. Some of them are supposed to be stopping the ball and taking down to the other end of the field to make a goal, but that doesn’t seem to be happening. Some are supposed to be protecting their goal, but that doesn’t seem to be where they want to be either. The action is usually on the other end of the field and who doesn’t want to be where the action is.
What would JDaniel get from participating in team sports?
Here are some things I think he could learn from team sports. I would love for you to share your thoughts in the conversation box below.
*He will learn to work with others on a common goal. Yes, the goal may be just chasing a ball.
*He will get to watch other people attempt to play a sport and use skills he still needs master.
*He will get the opportunity to cheer other people on to succeed.
*He will get the opportunity to learn that winning doesn’t mean the highest score in the game.
*He will learn to work on sharing sports equipment with others.
* He will get to hear adults outside of his family give him directions, praise, and challenges.
*He will get the opportunity to look forward to spending time with other children to exercise.
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By Deirdre
Welcome to week four of the Read. Explore. Learn Summer Reading Challenge- August! This meme was designed to be a place for you to share the learning opportunities, crafts, field trips, and other activities you have done this week that tie-in to children’s books. I look forward to seeing ways you have learned with and explored books.
Remember each post you link up counts as an entry in the the August edition of the Summer Reading Challenge. One post linked up to Read.Explore.Learn during the month of August will selected to win a reusable bag and books.
Steps:

This week I selected two books about characters that weren’t so sure about going to preschool to share with you.

The newness of everything and the unknown make him hold back from joining the other children in play. His teacher tries to engage him in activities and he doesn’t want to read, play or eat snack.
What he really wants is Mama, but he decides to try to play and get to know the other kids when the teacher promises Mama is coming back.
By the time Mama comes to school to get him, Llama Llama has lots to show and tell her.
This story reaches into little ones fears and probably some Mamas. I love how it is honest about feelings that really plague children about starting school.

Billy’s loves birds. He draws them, plays outside with them, and even talks to them about his feeling about school and his new shoes that are hard to tie.
One day while out in his yard Billy finds a bird that is hurt and being picked on by the other birds. Billy’s mother helps him bring in the bird and take care of it.
While Billy looked after the bird in a special box bed they made, Billy’s mother gets ready for the first day of school.
The night before school Billy dreams in his the injured bird being picked on. His mother has to come and give him a hug and tells him it is okay.
The next morning the little bird is ready to fly back into the outside world and Billy has to go to school.
Billy has a wonderful teacher that tours him around the room. Billy starts to feel better. He feels even better when he finds a book on birds in the classroom library. He reaaly feels better when he finds a friend.
That night Billy has a dream about flying freely with the bird towards his school and the dream isn’t scary.
Billy’s new found confidence and new friend really help him feel better about school.
I love this book. Billy learns that his feeling are real and have merit. He also learns that over time his feeling change and the way he views his world changes too.
What did we do?
Painting a Worry Stone
When I was visiting the Grand Canyon, they had worry stones in the gift shop. I thought they were the greatest thing. The directions that came with the rock suggested that you carry it in your pocket when you were going into a stressful situation. When you started to worry, you were to rub your thumb on the rock.
I thought it would be great for us to make one together and then put it into JDaniel’s backpack for school. He says he will rub it and send the worries to me.

By Deirdre
This is the second Mary Lee story I have shared. Over By the Tree Sits a Memory was the first. It features a lovely older lady named Mary Lee and her thoughts on how quickly children grow up.
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Sarah sat in a rocking chair beside her mom cradling a tall glass of sweet tea as she rocked. Her crying had left her breathless and she was now taking deep breathes as her mother had advised her to do. Mary Lee rocked beside her on the porch that summer morning waiting for Sarah’s emotions to settle. She had known Sarah would probably been stopping by this morning.
Sarah had arrived at her house in tears with a frantic look on her face. She had just dropped two of her children including Davey her youngest at Simpsonville United Methodist Preschool moments earlier. Mary Lee was grateful that she and Frank lived only minutes from the school. Sarah hadn’t looked like she would have been able to drive much further.
After hugging Sarah for ten minutes or so, Mary Lee had guided her oldest daughter to the porch and given her a wad of tissue and glass of tea. She had encouraged to take deep breathes and sip the sweet tea to help her calm down.
Sarah didn’t remember being this upset when she had dropped Lydia and William of a preschool. She remember them crying, but she had been excited for them.
When Sarah’s emotions seemed to have calmed, Mary Lee had asked her to share what the morning had been like so far.
Sarah ran through the getting ready for school routine.
Each child had special pancake waiting at their place at the table. Sarah always made smiley face pancakes with blueberry eyes, a chocolate chip nose, and a bacon mouth for the first day of school.
Lydia and William had headed off to their rooms to put on their first day of school clothes and new shoes. Lydia had tan Mary Jane’s with rhinestones and William had new sneakers with blinking lights.
Sarah had guided her three year old Davey to the room he shared with William to help him put on his new robot t-shirt, khaki shorts, and sneakers with racing stripes. William could put his arms in his shirt after it was pulled over his head and was able to pull up his shorts after your helped him put the right leg in the correct leg hole. Shoes on the other hand were difficult. Even his slip on sneakers seemed to frustrate him. Sarah still had to help him put them on.
After everyone was dressed and had their hair had been brushed ,the backpacks and lunch boxes were gathered up. Davey and Lydia really didn’t need a lunch boxes, but Mama you had bought them one anyway. You had told them that they could come to your house to celebrate Davey’s his first day of preschool with lunch with you under the big tree in the front yard and share about their day.
John, Sarah’s husband, took a picture of each of the children dressed for school on their own and individually. John needed to head off to work in a few minutes, but he loved getting to be a part of the first day by taking pictures.
After the pictures were done, the children were piled into the car and strapped in. When Sarah had looked into the backseat via the rear view mirror, her children looked excited and ready to go. Tears had threatened to start as she back out of the driveway, but she was able to contain them.
The first stop was William’s elementary school. It was less than a ten minute drive from their house. As soon as the car had pulled up to the unloading zone. William had jumped out of the car and headed to the door. It had only been just as he went through the door that he turned and blew his mom a kiss and waved good-bye.
Then it was off to Simpsonville United Methodist where Lydia would be in the K4 class and Davey would be in the K3. Sarah a hoped there would be a number of red lights on the way that would delay the inevitable, but they had been all green.
Sarah was able to find a parking spot in the crowded lot. Every parent was required to escort their children in during the first week of school. That meant every parent had to find a place to park during the morning drop off. If the lot had been full, Sarah would have had to circle until a spot had opened up, but she had had no such luck.
Lydia was ready to leap out of the car as soon as Sarah had come around to open her door. Davey had been more tentative. He had been to the preschool many times to drop of his siblings and to attend various family events, but he had never stayed behind on his own.
Despite her desire to keep Davey strapped in and take him home, she had unbuckled him and helped him leap down from his car seat. “Everything is going to be wonderful!” she had reassured him. “You have wonderful teachers and your friend Joe will be in your class.”
“I know,” Davey had said in a whisper. “Are you going to be okay?” he had asked her. “I can start on Thursday if you need me to stay home today,” he had commented after grabbing her hand.
“No, I think I will be okay,” she had said forcing herself to smile and walk towards the entrance of the preschool.
They had first gone to Lydia’s room and helped her hang up her backpack. She was thrilled to see many of the same children from her class last year. She had given Sarah a hug and then bounded to a work table where the teachers had set out puzzles.
Davey had started slowly down the hall with Sarah stopping to point out the bathroom, the office, and the library. Each time Sarah had commended him for remembering where each of the rooms were.
Their pace slowed to a creep as they neared his door. It was like they were both walking in slow motion. It was like they both were putting off getting there.
When they finally arrived, Sarah had helped Davey take his backpack off and hang it on the right peg. Mrs. Robinson, one of Davey’s teachers, had welcomed them to class and offered to introduce Davey to some of the students that had already arrived. Sarah had bent down to hug her youngest and wipe away a small tear.
“Mama, Mrs. Robinson had take Davey‘s hand a guide him to a table with small blocks on it“ Sarah said rocking in her chair. “I’m not sure either one of us would have let go.”
I blew him a kiss and watched him place it in this pocket before I turned to walk away to walk into the hall.
“I tried Mama. I really tried to hold back the tears, but they forced their way out and tumbled from my eyes before I made it out of the building,” Sarah sighed.
“It is totally normal,” Mary Lee assured her daughter as she reached out to stroke her arm. “Many mamas go through this. I bet there were mamas all over the parking lot sitting in their mini vans in tears.
“I am so glad you were home,” Sarah sighed again. “ I just don’t think I could go home to an empty house today. I am not sure I could have driven through my tears much further than your house.”
“ I glad I was here too,” Mary Lee replied. “ I love that I can be here for you. You know I went through a similar challenge when your little sister Martha started school. I think I spent the whole morning crying.
“Really?”Sarah had questioned.
“Yes, I did and I think we need to do what I did that day once you finish your glass of tea. So, take your time finishing and we will go into the kitchen and make apple turnovers to have with Lydia and Davey when they came for lunch.
“Cooking always helps me feel better,” Martha said finally feel a little better. “Me too,” said Mary Lee rocking back and forth slowly in her chair.
Sarah sat in a rocking chair beside her mom cradling a tall glass of sweet tea as she rocked.
This post is linked to Mrs. Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday and Mama Kat’s Writing Workshop. It contains many back to school traditions. They are special pancakes, new clothes and shoes, blowing a kiss and having your child keep it in their pocket, crying moms, needing a place to go that isn’t home, and a special lunch with people you love to share your day with.
By Deirdre
Today’s guest poster is a mom after my own heart. Bruna of Bees with Honey is truly special. I see beauty in her lovely blog, get to read her heartfelt words in her posts, but it was really through chatting with her via e-mail and on Twitter that I really saw her inner beauty.
We have never met in person yet I feel like I have had wonderful conversations with a friend when I talk with her.
You are so blessed to get to read her words here today.

I was really surprised when Deirdre asked me to write something for her Pause Life for a Moment series. More than surprised, I was honoured that she wanted me to come on over and share a story.
Those of you who already read my blog or chat with me on Twitter will not be surprised when I tell you that I have three girls ranging in ages from 3 to 5 to 13. I am also a part-time first grade teacher. I work half the week in a classroom and all week at home. My work in the home is never ending. Those of you who are Mothers know exactly what I mean.
Needless to say, life at my house is usually really busy. The hubby and I are constantly trying to balance our work life with being loving and involved parents to our children and spouses to each other. It’s not always easy. Most of the time, we find ourselves flying by the seat of our pants. With only three weeks left until the kids are back in school, we are enjoying every last minute of our summer vacation.
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My Pause for Life moment comes from our only camping trip of the summer. All five of us left our civilized residence and headed out to Harrison Hot Springs in beautiful British Columbia. The intention of our trip was to expose our girls to the beautiful existence that is nature and live without the amenities we have at home. No phone, no electronic games, no computer, no TV, no IPods, no toys. We wanted the girls to see how just the simple things in life can be exciting and fulfilling.

Daddy taught the girls how to pitch a tent. Everyone helped by doing their part. The girls were attentive and when the tent went up, they all got to go inside and set up their sleeping bags and pillows.

Big B took her two little sisters on a mini hikes throughout our stay. They went exploring through the bushes, trees and plants around our camp. Big B kept the girls entertained with various scavenger hunts and some good old make-believe Spy game. I have never seen them so engaged.

During our camping adventure, Daddy took the girls out in a canoe to explore the lake and get a taste of fishing. You can imagine their faces when Daddy caught a fish and reeled it in. Little B helped to clean out the fish guts and Daddy cooked it on the mini BBQ.

We spent a day at a local beach close to the campground. The girls frolicked in the water, covered themselves in the sand and tried building a sandcastle. They played happily, cooperatively and without any whining whatsoever. It was so relaxing.
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At no time during any part of our camping trip did any child complain they were bored. The 13 year-old spent most of her time playing with her sisters or talking with us around the campfire. Our nights were spent singing campfire songs, roasting marshmallows and making Smores. When it was time to leave, the wee girls shed a few tears in protest and asked when we could come back to do it all over again. We assured them a summer camping trip would become an annual event.
Oh, how I miss the days when life was much simpler.
I miss the hours upon hours kids use to play outside with a ball or a stick and the use of their imagination to create the play.
I miss the days when people would sit around and talk or sing songs.
I miss the smell of campfire on my clothes.
I miss the taste of hot dogs roasted over a fire.
My Pause Life for a Moment comes from a wonderful weekend spent camping with my family in the outdoors, under the stars, partnered with nature and away from the busy place we call home.
By Deirdre
Today is National Tooth Fairy Day! I decided to celebrate by having JDaniel sink his teeth into teeth.
He had pickle lips with green pea teeth, a carved apple, veggie chip lips and a tongue with a rice inner mouth and raisin teeth, banana lips with red grape lips, and a ham and cheese sandwich mouth.
JDaniel ate everything except the rice. I really should have used cherry yogurt for the inner mouth. He would have inhaled that.

By Deirdre
Welcome to the Back to School Traditions link up!
I know some of you have started school already and some will be starting in the next few weeks. I am dying to know how you celebrate the beginning of school at your house or in your classroom.
Below there is a link up where you can share you back to school pictures and posts.
The link will stay open until September 8th. Yes, I know it is a big window of time, but I want to give everyone an opportunity to share.
If you would include the badge below on your post or link about to this post, I would be very thankful.

JDaniel will have Meet the Teacher this Friday and start preschool next Tuesday. I will be posting on each of these big events along with linking several other posts of my own.
By Deirdre
Welcome to week three of the Read. Explore. Learn Summer Reading Challenge- August! This meme was designed to be a place for you to share the learning opportunities, crafts, field trips, and other activities you have done this week that tie-in to children’s books. I look forward to seeing ways you have learned with and explored books.
Remember each post you link up counts as an entry in the the August edition of the Summer Reading Challenge. One post linked up to Read.Explore.Learn during the month of August will selected to win a reusable bag and books.
Steps:


JDaniel will start preschool in a week and a half so, I decided to find some books on preschool. I am going to share one them this week and two next week.
This week’s book is called Ready, Set, Preschool and is by Anna Jane Hays. The book reviews many of the concepts Jdaniel will be learning about in school and was a great way for him to see what school will be about. We went through the book a couple pages at a time and talked about everything on them.
What does the book cover?
Learning to write your name
Counting
What you will find in a preschool room
Rhyming
Colors
Getting Dressed
Shapes
Meeting new friends
Getting new shoes
Parts of the body
And so much more…
I felt comfortable going through the book with JDaniel on my own, but the book does contain tips on how to work on each page.
This is such a great learning tool. I really loved the illustrations and the clean lines of each page.
What did we do?
Letters in Your Name Cookies
One of the things I have been working on with JDaniel is knowing the letters of his name.
I decided we would practice the letters in cookies. I printed out JDaniel’s name and we looked for cookie cutters that matched the letters. We did the same thing with the boy next door’s name, because he was over for over at our house.

Then we made sugar cookies that spelled out our names. Nathan loved cutting out the cookies. JDaniel loved eating the mix.



By Deirdre
One day last week I decided that JDaniel and his friend Bryce would use one of the remote controls for a singing game with me instead of dumping out all the toys to create a store. They seemed excited about the opportunity to play a new game.
How do you play?
The person holding the remote control calls out a song and clicks the remote. Everyone playing the game has to sing that song until another song is called out and the remote is clicked.
Here is an example:
Me:
The song is Jesus Love Me. (Click)
Everyone:
Jesus loves me! this I know,
For the Bible tells me so.
Little ones to Him belong;
they are weak but He is strong.
Yes, Jesus loves me!
Yes, Jesus loves me!
Yes, Jesus loves me!
The Bible tells me so.
Me:
The song is Your Are My Sunshine. (click)
Everyone:
You Are My Sunshine
My only sunshine.
You make me happy
When skies are grey.
You’ll never know, dear,
How much I love you.
Please don’t take my sunshine away
The game is simple, silly and fun. JDaniel and Bryce ( The boy next door) loved it when it was their turn to control the remote.
I hope you will try this game out and let me know how it plays at your house.
This post is linked to Mrs. Matlock’s Alphabe Thursday.
By Deirdre
One of the blogs I have fallen in love with this summer is Mama Track. I love the way her words flow and weave together to create pictures. She has a true gift. I went back through her blog to find the post that had first lead me to following her and discovered that I had missed several amazing posts that I need to go back and read. I believe it was Little Things that I first discovered, but it could have been one of many others.
I love the post she is sharing here today. It hit me right between the eyes. Things here have been busy and I have been trying to get a lot done, but a very special someone has been asking for my time. He may not always do that so, I need to built memories now.

Please stop by Mama Track and let her know how much you loved this.