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Deirdre Smith writes/owns JDaniel4’s Mom. After twenty years as a elementary school and technology resource teacher in Northern Virginia, she became a stay at home mom in upstate South Carolina. Her blog features ways she and her 5 year old are exploring learning, crafting, creating healthy meals and living life to its fullest. Deirdre can also be found on twitter as @jdaniel4smom and on her blog's FB page. You can also check her out on Google+.
By Deirdre
By Deirdre
If you are looking for an honest and fun post about parenting and life in general, you do need to visit today’s guest. Grumpy Grateful Mom is a wonderful writer, a fun mom, a great blogging friend, and a commenter of many posts on many blogs.
I feel so blessed to have her comments on my posts regularly and am so excited that she is here today.
I love being a mom to my four kids. But there’s also something else I love, bedtime!
So last week, it was a little painful, but we paused our normal bedtime routine in exchange for a tradition I’ve been meaning to start for years. We got the kids in their pajamas and told them the first part of our plan.
The chipper faces vanished and were replaced with the saddest little expressions. Then, they turned against us.
My oldest three all complained and gave excuses why this was NOT a good present. After about fifteen minutes, my kids were finally resigned to their terrible fate; surprisingly, they were in their beds much faster than a usual night.
My husband and I then raced back into their room and turned on the lights.
“Get up! Get up! We’re going for a drive!”
JDaniel would so love to have been at her house on this night! What a great treat!
By Deirdre
By Deirdre
Before I tell you about this link up and share with you what we did this week, I want to tell you a story:
A mother in her early thirties stands in line at a grocery store ready to checkout. She glances at her groceries on the conveyer belt silently adding their cost up in her head. The total will come close to the cash she has in her wallet. It might go a little over. She hopes it won’t.
When the cashier finally finishes ringing up the total , it is a little over what she has.
“ I think we can do without this”, she says handing one of the items to the cashier.
“All right,” responded the cashier looking as frustrated as the mother before her. She wishes she could make the groceries fit the money the mom has in her wallet. It isn’t as if the mom is purchasing junk food or extras. The bagging area holds fruit, milk, inexpensive meat, vegetables, and a couple loaves of bread. Groceries the three children standing beside her are going to need grow and be healthy.
The mother hands over what remains in her wallet on this day near end on the month. She hopes that this won’t happen again. It is embarrassing and humbling. She hates that her girls have to see this.
This mom works hard to provide for her girls. She spends her days teaching other people’s children in a public school. She pinches her pennies and uses coupons. She makes sure her girls’ basic needs are met. There just isn’t money for extras and sometimes at the end of the month there just isn’t enough for all basics.
This is a true story.
I was one of those little girls standing beside my mom in the grocery line. It was the mid-seventies and grocery stores took only cash where we lived. You could only spend what you had. We had the basics. My mom made sure of that, but there just weren’t extras.
Even with tight times my mom taught us that there were others much worse off. She instilled in us the need to give them. I so want Jdaniel to become someone who looks out for others too.
How this link up works:
There are so many in need during this Christmas season. I am hoping you will join me in giving to others in your community or beyond this holiday season.
Each week I will feature a way my family is giving to our community during the month of December. I am hoping each of you will take the time to not only give to your community, but to write a blog post about it. If you do, I would love for you to link it up below and include a link to this post or this badge.
My posts will go on Sundays, but feel free to share your giving post any day of the week that works for you. The link up will be available during the rest of the month of December and will appear on every Giving Others Christmas post.
What did we do?
This week JDaniel and I just went to the grocery store to give to others this week. BI-Lo is the grocery store closest to our house and it also happens to be a big supporter of our favorite food pantry at the Golden Strip Emergency Relief and Resource Agency.
BI-LO has put together food boxes for you to buy filled with wonderful things that the food pantry visitor will need. You just purchase the box and they deliver it to the Golden Strip Emergency Relief and Resource Agency for you.
I give to the food pantry monthly and love that BI-Lo has made it easier to purchase and drop off the food for me.
Thankfully we haven’t needed to visit the food pantry ourselves, but there are many this year that have. They have lots of visitors.
What have you done to give Christmas to others this week?
By Deirdre
By Deirdre
I love holiday traditions. One of the ones I remember from my childhood is opening presents on Christmas morning as a family. Presents would be distributed into piles. My mom, two sisters, and I would each take a turn opening one of our presents. It was great to get to see what others were opening as well as have everyone watching me when it was my turn.
This year for the very first time JDaniel will be able to get out of bed Christmas morning and head downstairs to the Christmas tree all by himself. I am a little nervous about what might happen to the presents under the tree.
JDaniel climbed out of his crib only two or three times while it was in his sleeping place and that was when he was nearing his third birthday. I know many of you have children that climbed out of bed much early than that! Given that he stayed in his crib and that we didn’t need the crib for another child it seemed to be a good place for him to stay. He slept well in there and we slept well while he was in there. We all did great sleeping in the crib years. (Most of the time.)
The move to a bed without sides has changed everything. It has to lead to visits to our room during the night. I have awakened to a set of eyes staring at me at all hours of the night. Recently I found him sleeping on the floor at the end of our bed with our comforter pulled all around him.
Things have started moving around during the night at our house too. Pillows from the couch in the guest room, towels from the hall bathroom, and toys from around his room have all been found in his bed in the morning.
With Christmas just around the corner I have started having visions of Christmas presents appearing in his bedroom unwrapped and already played with. Thoughts of finding him curled up under the Christmas tree with his arms around gifts have also begun to appear along with dreams of finding his sleeping with his Christmas stocking on his foot and the contents of the stocking strewn all over his bedroom floor.
Many of you have been through this for years and are veterans of Christmas morning. I need your help to calm my mind and draw plans for successfully opening presents together on Christmas day!
How do you keep a three-year-old from getting up and beginning Christmas without you?
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By Deirdre
Last year I tried to avoid emphasizing the Santa part of the holidays and really tried to focus on it being Jesus’ birthday. My sister Michelle told me that it would be impossible. “Santa is everywhere!” she said and she was right.
JDaniel became convinced of Santa after a visit to BiLo.
This year I have been presented with a new Santa dilemma. It is a dilemma that many parents around the world have probably had to deal with.
Let me share with you a conversation JDaniel and I recently had about Santa while hanging Christmas ornaments.
Me:
“Would you like to go see Santa at the Roper Mountain Christmas Festival?”
JDaniel:
“ Mom, Santa has a house in Arkansas. He can’t be at Roper Mountain.”
Me:
“We did see Santa’s house in Arkansas when we explored the little town at the bottom of Mount Magazine.”
JDaniel:
“It was surrounded by all those decorated trees remember!”
Me:
“Yes, I remember. You noticed that Santa had a back door and front door to his house.”
JDaniel:
“Are you saying he can be in both places? Is he like God?”
Me:
“No, Santa isn’t like God. Remember Santa was a man.”
JDaniel:
“Mom, he is like God really. He is everywhere just like God.”
Me:
“God is everywhere but, Santa isn’t able to be. He has to have helpers work for him in places he can’t be.”
JDaniel:
“So where is he? Is he in Arkansas or South Carolina?”
Me:
“It is hard to tell. His helpers looks just like him.”
JDaniel:
“Okay!”
Me:
“So, do you want to go see him?”
JDaniel:
“Well, Nathan ( The four-year-old that lives next door) is going to write him for me. I guess I don’t need to see him anywhere.”
We may run into Santa while we are out and about but, apparently, JDaniel isn’t interested in seeking him out. He seems content to know he is somewhere in this world.
This post is linked to Alphabe Thursday on Mrs. Matlock and Mama Kat’s Writing Workshop!
By Deirdre
I loved reading MyLittle 3 Ducks maybe it is because I was one of three little ducks a long time ago. It maybe that Dana takes amazing pictures and write wonderful prose to go with them. I love getting to see glimpse into the wonderful family she is raising with her husband when I stop by. I know you will too.
When the amazing JDaniel4’s Mom asked me if I would like to write a post for her Pause life for a moment series of course I said yes! When I sat down to write the post for her I thought…
Do I pause for life?
What if something happens while I’m paused?
That was back in October.
Since then amazing things have happened that have helped me understand myself better.
Understand why I have to always be moving.
Understand why reading a book to myself or to my kiddos has always been so painful.
Understand why my writing never flows and my spelling is always awful.
I now know Dyslexia plays a huge part in all of those things and starting the process of overcoming it has changed my life and my family’s life.
Now I am able to…
Sit.
Sit with my kiddos and read to them.
Sit and listen to them read.
Sit and do crafts with them.
Sit with my husband and enjoy our time together.
Before October I never understood how precious time was.
JDaniel4’s Mom asking me to write this post came at the perfect time. Trying to write this post before I got help was painful and made me realize I never pause.
Did I even want to?
And did that make me a bad mom? (Of course not!)
Sitting down to write this post after I got help made me realize just how far I have come.
Now my answer would YES! Bring on the pause!
Pausing Life for a moment is such a gift and I am so grateful that I can now see that.
I had no idea Dana was working through this when I invited her to guest post, but I know Someone who must have placed her on my heart. I am so happy I listened to His still small voice.
By Deirdre
Alison of Mama Wants This and Galit of These Little Waves are hosting a wonderful link-up called Moments Captured. This is what they asked us to do capture a moment or someone you love in words and pictures and share them.
I really loved this idea. When I first read about it last week, I knew exactly which picture I wanted to use. I had just taken it during our family reunion at Mount Magazine.
It was such fun to select the words that describe JDaniel at three and a half.
They will have their link-up open all week. I would love to see what you come up with.
Reminder: My Giving Others Christmas Challenge link is open and will be open all month. I hope you will think about joining it. All you have to do is find a way to give others Christmas and share what you have done in a post.
By Deirdre
There are so many in need during this Christmas season. I am hoping you will join me in giving to others in your community or beyond this holiday season.
Each week I will feature a way my family is giving to our community during the month of December. I am hoping each of you will take the time to not only give to your community, but to write a blog post about it. If you do, I would love for you to link it up below and include a link to this post or this badge.
My posts will go on Sundays, but feel free to share your giving post any day of the week that works for you. The link up will be available during the rest of the month of December and will appear on every Giving Others Christmas post.
Week One of Giving at Our House- The Mitten Tree
JDaniel’s preschool has a mitten tree set up in the lobby. We took in two pairs of mittens for the tree. At first there weren’t many mittens or gloves, but the tree is slowly getting covered.
In honor of giving mittens JDaniel had a crescent apple pie with icing in his muffin tin this week. He also had ham and cheese sandwiches on picks Two Bears Farm sent us, red grapes and green pickles.
I think the picks kind of look like Christmas tree toppers on the sandwich stacks. JDaniel loved have tiny sandwiches on sticks. His only concern was that one sandwich might not have cheese, but we found it tucked in a fold of ham. Whew!
I truly hope you will join me in giving others Christmas!
This post is linked to Muffin Tin Monday!